I was Cycling this morning and I noticed another cyclist about half a kilometer ahead. I could guess he was Cycling a little slower than me and that made me feel good, since I was faster.
I said to myself, “If I ride a little faster, I will catch up with him in no time”.
So I started cycling faster and faster. With every pedal, I was gaining on him a little bit. After just a few minutes I was only about 100 feet behind him, so I really picked up the pace and pushed myself. In that moment, all I could think about was getting past him and I was determined to do just that.
Finally, I did it! I caught up and passed him. It was a small moment of rush and joy where I told myself, “I beat him”. Of course, he didn’t even know we were racing. It was only after I passed him, that I realized I had been so focused on competing against him that I had missed the turn to my house!!!
In this entire unnecessary charade going on in my head, I totally missed out on enjoying the moment. I missed out on enjoying the activity that brought me peace, I missed out on seeing the beautiful greenery around, I missed out on paying attention to my thoughts and in the needless hurry my feet slipped from the pedal a couple of times and I could have have hit the sidewalk and broken a limb.
Like a lot of my other thoughts that I’ve penned on this page before, it then dawned on me, that this is exactly what happens in life when we focus on competing with people around us ; co-workers, neighbours, friends, family ; trying to outdo them or being busy trying to prove (to ourselves and people around us) that we are more successful or more important and in the process, missing out on our happiness within our own surroundings.
We spend so much time and energy running after them that we miss out on our own paths to our given destinations. The problem, I realised, with unhealthy competition is that it’s a never ending cycle. There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with a better job, a nicer car, more money in the bank, more education, a prettier wife, a more handsome husband, better behaved children, better circumstances and conditions, etc.
But one important realisation is that
‘You can be the best that you can be, when you are not competing with anyone.’
Some people are insecure because they pay too much attention to what others are, where others are going, wearing and driving, what others are talking. Take whatever you have, the height, the weight and the personality. Accept it and realize, that you are blessed (Ofcourse, there’s always scope for growth and one should never stop working hard to be where they want to be). But accept it, be grateful for it and stay focused and live a healthy life.
There is no competition in Destiny. Each has his own.
Comparison AND Competition are the thief of JOY.
It kills the Joy of Living your Own Life. Run your own Race, one which leads to a peaceful, happy and steady life. Seek adventure if it suits you, seek competition if it brings out the best in you, but don’t let it pull you down or rob you of your joy or self-love.
I hope you find this helpful or atleast it provokes your thinking engines. Until next time!
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Totally agree…. comparison and competition is a vicious cycle that ultimately does more harm than good…. contentment is the real key to happiness 👍😀
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I’ve been told that all my life and to be confident in who I am. However, these days, as I give up on finding on a job, I feel this so strongly, it’s so hard.
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I fall back to this quote ‘Fake it till you make it’ in times when I feel like this!
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Yeah….
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The worst is, it is so embedded in our modern “nature” that we can’t imagine to not do it
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Yes exactly, that is the entire essence of this post!
I’m glad you can relate!
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I do, un/fortunately
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I disagree, as lazy people and low achievers will use this post and similar post as an example to justify their lack of competitiveness and effort to improve themselves. Sure enjoying yourself is good and all and I totally support that, but at the same time competitiveness IS NECESSARY. It is what DRIVES US what pushes us and what keeps the human race moving forward
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I agree. Being competitive brings out the better in us, but it is not necessary to always be competitive.
Sometimes, it can simply be about having a good time and enjoying doing whatever it is we’re doing!
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Well said 😀😀
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What if you compete against yourself, is it okay to compete then? what about healthy competition, is there such a thing? as I think about these questions, I have to wonder if the problem isn’t so much comparison and competition but rather how you’re doing those things and whether or not it takes away from what you really want to be doing. I think some people really do want to compete and find joy in that and that it can be healthy. It’s not so black and white though.
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Competition is always a good thing, since it brings out the better in us, and competing with ourselves is always better than competing with someone else in my opinion.
However, it cannot be the only thing we do, that’s all I’m trying to say. At times, it’s better to take a step back and just cherish and enjoy all the we have and all that we are!
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That makes a lot of sense!
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Nice post.
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Thank you so much 😄
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This is such an important message ❤️
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Thank you 🙂
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Nice to read this great article…
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You are amazing. I learn from this. Thank you so much.
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I’m really glad you found this helpful, thank you so much 🙂
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🥰💞
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I believe competing with oneself moves us forward if the competition doesn’t become too self critical. I find that I often need a swift kick in the ass to get going. Once momentum is initiated, then I can put it on cruise control.
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That’s almost exactly what I intended on saying. All I’d like to add to that is to enjoy/cherish the process!
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The part where you missed the turn to your house, epic twist with a lovely moral tagged back to it. Really loved your post 👍
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Thank you so much 😄
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Wow! I just randomly found this post and wow. I start reading it and it’s like what’s happening and then when u get the meaning behind. Thanku for your work.
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This isn’t my work, I am simply sharing it while doing my own research!
But I am glad you find it useful!
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Excellent post! Loved reading!😊
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Thank you so much 🙂
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Excellent point!
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Thank you 😄
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Great article and a good
Message
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Thank you so much 🙂
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Very well written! A little gratitude can make us feel much happier and calmer😊
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Precisely 😇😇
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That’s a very nice assessment. Great example and explanation!
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Thank you 🙂
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I’m sorry, I don’t really have a lot of knowledge in this area to be helpful 😦
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awesome..nice post..
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Thank you so much 🙂
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Me when I see any jogger in front of me
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Thanks for sharing, the image of you realising you had missed your turning made me laugh out loud… Best wishes…
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Thank you, I’m glad it made you laugh 🙂
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Well said!
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Thank you 🙂
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Allow me to share a poem I wrote on this very topic:
Why gauge yourself
By the reflection
In the mirror of another?
They have had their whole life
To practice
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Beautiful words!
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Thank you!
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Thank’s
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